Becoming confident of yourself is not an overnight job. You have to work on it consistently and increase your self-esteem bit by bit. You have to shut out the negative voices in your brain from time to time. You have to make yourself believe that you can do it.
Start with these baby steps:
- Look at yourself in the mirror and smile. This will instantly make your feel better.
- Write down on a piece of paper, five of your unique abilities or strengths. (It can be anything, like "I can judge people well" or "I am very helpful" or "I can think on my feet".)
- Write down five of your major achievements in life. (School/college life, or personal life)
- Do positive visualization, i.e, when you are thinking of a situation, think that you are handling it well. Visualize yourself as a confident and successful individual. Remember, what you think, you become!
- Every morning after getting out from bed, read your list of strengths and achievements. Think that you will make this day useful and achieve your goal.
- Before going to sleep, be thankful for the blessings in your life (home, parents, siblings, friends, opportunities for education, etc.)
- Read good books
- Listen to motivating talks, or
- Watch motivating videos.
- Keep your self-talk positive and encouraging.
- Allow anyone to demean your worth by unfairly criticizing you, or laughing at your weakness. It's only small minded people who take pleasure in the discomfiture of others.
- Say yes when you want to say no. It will hurt people initially, but it's worth it in the long run.
Remember to think positive, accept failures, accept your weaknesses, take pride in your achievements - however small they may be, and love yourself wholeheartedly.