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Bollywood Films that Taught Me About Life and Living

We normally do not associate #BollywoodCinema with pathbreaking insights or life messages. But there have been some gems now and then, that have shed light on unconventional topics, or have shown a well-known malaise in a different light.

Four Hindi films taught me more about life, learning and living than any book could.  These are #Hichki, #DearZindagi, #TaareZameenPar and #Queen.

Hichki – Right of Each Child to a Good Life

#Hichki the film about a teacher afflicted with Tourette Syndrome, goes to talk about the barriers and restrictions we ("so- called normal people") have in our minds that hold us back.


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First, why do we, as teachers and as parents, lay so much stress on teaching the same old syllabus in the same old manner? Why go around the beaten path only, and drone on and on about formulae and theories in physics, maths, chemistry? Why not imagine creative situations where these theories can be demonstrated, exemplified, and therefore ingrained in the mind?

Two, every child is unique and has some inborn talent. Just because he/she doesn't fit in your definition of a good student, it doesn't mean he/she is worthless. Being a teacher or parent doesn't give us the right to belittle any child because of lack of marks or academic performance.

Three, when a student fails, morally or academically, a teacher also fails. The responsibility of failure does not lie squarely on the shoulders of the student; it means that the teaching methods have been inadequate. A teacher has equal responsibility to motivate and enthuse a child to learn and perform well, not only in examinations, but also prepare the child for real life.

Fourth, and most important, examinations are not the be-all and end-all of a student's existence and benchmark for a student's worth. Becoming a successful student and becoming a good person are not necessarily the same. Brilliant students lack emotional intelligence, and are snooty to a fault. “Hichki” showed us that ordinary, average students can excel if they get the right inspiration. And #RaniMukherji gave a knockout performance.

Dear Zindagi – Normalizing Mental Health Issues

#GauriShinde’s #DearZindagi emphasized the importance of acknowledging your emotions and seeking help/therapy when required.

The film is path breaking in the sense that for the first time, the confused and vulnerable heroine is shown seeking psychological therapy and counselling from a professional psychiatrist (Shahrukh Khan in a mellow, ironical, self-deprecating avatar dropped quite a few nuggets of wisdom).

This in itself raises the film above the ordinary. Hindi cinema has so far shied away from showing any kind of psychological malaise, particularly that of the hero or heroine, who are always depicted as perfect creatures.

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Here, the protagonist, (played by an excellently expressive and natural #AliaBhatt) is an extremely vulnerable, sensitive girl who is assisted by her therapist in discovering her true calling and in finding peace and happiness.

The film's story and treatment are both refreshingly realistic. The director shows that she has her pulse on the youth of today and can deftly portray their angst, moodiness and loneliness.

Taare Zameen Par – Every Child is Unique

Then there is the master-perfectionist-actor, #AamirKhan’s #TaareZameenPar, where little Ishaan’s angst and isolation gets emotional anchorage in the compassionate tutelage of his art teacher.

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“Taare Zameen Par” is a sensitive exploration of a unique mind, the mind of a 8-year old kid (a moving #DarsheelZafary) with #Dyslexia. Through the child’s struggle to make sense of things, we- as the audience, laugh and cry along. 


The way society treats a #differentlyabled child, the pitfalls of the conventional methods of teaching, the therapeutic value of artistic expression in children, the right of each child to be treated with respect and empathy, we learnt all this and more from this sensitively made film.

The film is, till-date, a kind of wake-up call for the #IndianEducationSystem, that lays undue importance on rote-learning of conventional subjects, and that treats those who lag behind as “failures”. Teachers need to learn a lot - this was the film’s essential message, and adults can take a leaf or two out of a gifted child’s page.

Queen- Self Love and Acceptance

And finally, #Queen was a film that taught us that we are the masters of our life, and that self-love is the ultimate love.

As the girl rejected at the outset of the movie for not being "modern" enough, Rani (a brilliant #KanganaRanaut) stuns her detractors and family alike with her transformation. She does not judge, does not criticize, she just accepts. Touching everybody she comes in contact with on foreign shores, she learns to live in the true sense. Her openness and quiet strength come as an eye-opener to everybody eager to write her off as a "bechari".

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This film is about empowering oneself to face all kinds of challenges and tribulations life doles out to one. Everybody can relate to the film, not just women. Almost everyone has faced such situations in life, where one really feels it is the end of the road.

But #Queen shows us that life is much more than one small incident or setback. Life needs to be lived, not just endured. With a smile on your face, and acceptance in your heart, and a non-judgmental stance, one can win the world literally.3

When Rani rejects her ultimately repentant husband-to-be, and walks out with her head high and a quiet smile, you feel cathartic.

There Are More

These four gems from Hindi cinema have been stellar teachers to me. Yes, there are more.

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#RangDeBasanti taught me about real patriotism, as opposed to chest-thumping nationalism, and standing up for what is right. The superbly directed and acted film still manages to give me goosebumps. Change begins from you, was the strong message.



#NilBatteSannata taught that its never too late to learn. #Sridevi's #EnglishVinglish and #Mom showed the awesome powers of an ordinary woman and mother.

#Pink taught me the right to say no to patriarchy and aggression, while #ZindagiNaMilegiDobara demonstrated the need for an open mind for experiencing life’s true beauty. #Chhichhore showed that we need to embrace and accept failure and failing doesn't make one a loser. 

#MeeRaqsam stressed on the inclusive culture of our country and the fact that art has no religion. #TheLastColour showed that friendship is possible between two entirely different people, and that empathy can bind more than blood can.

These Hindi films have been no less than life lessons for me. Looking forward to more such gems!

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