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Do You Suffer From Imposter Syndrome Too?

Let's take a very common situation.


You have earned a promotion through sheer dint of hard work. With a raise of 20% and a chic new cabin, you are feeling on top of the world. The world is your oyster, so to say.

People are coming to congratulate you, and you are the toast of parties. At last, you have made it, it seems! 



Suddenly, a feeling of inadequacy creeps in. You begin to feel like a fraud, a flash in the pan, a wannabe, who's soon going to be uncovered for what you actually are. Your success feels unreasonable, it seems you have just got lucky! Soon people will find out what a big loser you are, and you will be back to square one!

It has happened with you, right? It is termed as Imposter Syndrome.

Happens to the best of us, and the most successful achievers. 

Mainly due to:


  • Low self esteem or self opinion caused by either

              • Severe criticism by persons close to you, Or
              • Bullying in childhood
  • Feelings of Insecurity caused by job loss or failure in relationships
  • Lack of confidence in your abilities, talent, or educational qualifications
  • Being the centre of attention all of a sudden after being ignored for long

Now, since it happens to almost everyone, particularly in today's success obsessed world, lets find out ways to tackle it.

5 Doable Ways to Tackle Imposter Syndrome

  1. Practice detachment.  Take success and failure in your stride. Don't place too much importance on either. 
  2. Understand that you have every right to enjoy your achievements. Be generous in complimenting others on their achievements too.
  3. Believe in positive visualization and manifestation. Good things happen to those who work for it and make them happen. 
  4. Talk to your close ones about your insecurities.

    Sharing your worst fears makes you confront them for what they are...just fears. Or write these down in a journal. 
  5. Consult a mental health professional if this feeling  persists, or if it is causing you to feel chronic guilt or anxiety.

Above all, practice gratitude and kindness. Be kind to others as well as to yourself. Keep faith in God and the Universe. Do not consider failing as the end of the world. 

We need both sunshine and night-time darkness to appreciate the value of either.

Happy living!


#Insecurities #ImposterSyndrome #LowSelfConfidence

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